How to use a vibrator

Unsure how to use a vibrator? Never tried one before? That’s totally fine and also, I’m so excited for you to up your masturbation game! Before you start, it’s important to know how to use a vibrator in the best possible way. It’s not always as simple as picking any old toy, charging it and pressing the on button.

1. Realise it’s completely normal – even for couples
The first thing to realise is that sex toys are now a regular part of many couples’ sexual routines. Using a vibe doesn’t mean your sex life is rubbish, so banishing your partner’s fear of inadequacy should be the first item on your list. Using a vibrator is a fun way of reaffirming your mutual trust, making you more open-minded, intimate and confident with each other’s bodies.

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2. Find the right toy
Everyone is different and you need to find a vibe that works for your body. There are all sorts that you can choose from and it can be kind of intimidating if you’re not sure where to start.

3. Figure out what feels good for you
You can do this by simply choosing your desired vibration pattern and speed, applying some lube to make things nice and slippery, then moving the vibe around the clitoris and labia until you find the place and method of stimulation that feels the best. That’s a basic, but extremely enjoyable approach to orgasming with a vibrator.

4. Get ready to roam
Sure, it seems small on the surface, but you’d be surprised just how much variation there is in the clitoris, especially as it actually extends around the labia beneath the surface. As you become more experienced, you can achieve a fantastic level of precision with a good vibrator. Some women say a particular side of their clitoris is more sensitive, while others prefer to stimulate somewhere just above or below it. If you’re especially sensitive, you can also try using it outside the labia. By covering the clit, the vibrations are dulled slightly, which gives you a slower build up to orgasm.

5. Try edging
When you get used to your vibrator, you can try some really exciting techniques such as ‘edging.’ This is the practice of bringing yourself close to the ‘edge’ of orgasm but not quite tipping yourself over it. You keep doing this several times until you are in a super-heightened state of arousal and any touch will make you explode. Sounds like fun? Well, it’s even more fun with a great vibe.

6. Really use those settings
Toys have become increasingly sophisticated and come with a whole range of different settings for different users, for timid first timers who enjoy the gentlest vibrations to those who need concrete-smashing power get them off. It’s definitely worth trying each pattern and speed setting as you might discover you like a sensation you never thought you would.

7. Using them during sex
Some of your sexual partners may find this intimidating. So get them relaxed by using the vibe on them first. If your partner’s a guy, try the nipples, balls, or the sensitive frenulum just under the head of his penis. A small vibe like a bullet can be used to stimulate the clitoris during missionary intercourse without getting in the way.